I''ll be 80 in 3 months and it has taken me many years to stop giving a fuck about what other's think of me. I follow most of the societal's rules. I bathe regularly and stop at stop at stop signs. But when I have dinner, it is usualy from a paper plate and ONE fork. I have learned to not worry about people who don't like me. I can see through most of the manipulation I encounter. Your article is right on. I wish I had known what I know now. You can be "nice" and be your own person.